Confident people inspire other people to big deals. Usually the society would accept ideas and would prefer a confident person to a person with a lower self-esteem, even if the ideas of another one can be better. Just take a look to your circle as an adult, who do you listen more?
I can´t say firmly that I am very confident person, but it is true that I read and develop this skill within me. During my life, all the best things which had happened to me were due to my high confidence and in that moments.
Studies show that you can grow your self-esteem during your life, but real self-esteem is built at early ages, till 5 years more or less. Why at this stage? Because, during first 5 years of life you discover the world in which you live, the people nearby, your body and your mind.
I am not a psychologist and I do not insist on my ideas. Every parent has the right to educate his child on his own way. This is why I share with you my top 10 secrets that I do for growing self-esteem of my toddler. If you want to add any own secret, please comment. We like comments :)
1. Give hugs - Earlier, before being a mum, I had read an interesting article about the importance of touching. All people feel safe while hugging. This fact is for one simple reason; baby in mother´s utter has very few space, and his position inside the utter is like he is hugged by his mother and protected during his first 9 months of living. Even if we do not remember our first 9 months of living, our body remember. And a hug of a parent for a kid is like a recharger of happiness batery and his feeling of being safe.
2. Tell your toddler I LOVE YOU - even if it is a boy, he must know that he is loved by his parents, and that he is appreciated. All of us need to hear these magic 3 words.
3. Tell him he is smart and pretty - all children seem their perfection and they love their body and how they look like, but unfortunately after a lot of studies, have been seen that from 5 years they begin to feel uncomfortable with their body and begin to compare themselves with other children of their age. It is important that you observe this and explain him that he is perfect in his way.
4. Ask questions. If you want to know more about your toddler, ask him questions, it is a perfect way to find what he thinks about. At this stage it it important not to impose your ideas. You have to understand that you had your childhood at least 20 years ago, so many changes happened during this time, that your ideas are a little bit obsolete. In any case your child will repeat you and will be a little ¨copy¨ of you and your partner. By asking questions, let him discover the world, create his imagination and feelings. He is thinking while he answers you.
5. Listen - when you ask your toddler anything, please, be patient and listen what he wants to tell you. If every time when your kid will talk you won't listen, do not expect him after few years that he will share his thoughts with you.
6. Sing and dance with him - music forms his flexibility. Your child needs to understand that he is the Master of his body, every move has to be coordinated and understood by him. Music helps a lot your child´s to possess his body.
7. Ask for help - do not compel your child to do something. Ask him for a favor, and he will grow like a flower, because he will feel that he is doing something amazing by helping you.
8. Play together - remember about your childhood, and play with your kid as being of his age. I am sure you will enjoy as much as he does. He will find in you a good friend that is ready to be nearby.
9. Travel together - it is really fun to learn this amazing world with him, you feel like a team who discover the places that has been never seen buy you.
10. Be his HOME - your child must feel, that whatever and wherever he goes, there is always a place where he can come for relief. And if something bad or good happened to him, there is always a person waiting for hime to discuss his problem. Be his HOME!
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